Safe People
I am reading a christian book titled “Safe People” by Cloud and Townsend. I am intrigued at the insight it holds and the scriptures used. I am reading about how find safe people and avoid unsafe people. The think the people in my life I consider safe right now are Bobbie Thomas, Leah & Rob Vis, Heidi Sivonen, Angela Ferraro and Christina Crowley. The ones I see the most on a regular basis are Bobbie and Leah. Sometimes I e-mail Heidi in Finland. I miss her. But anyway, I hope with this book and the scriptures it gives me I will be able to find more safe people and fill my life with closer intimate friendships.
One paragraph in the book uses an analogy of how we can become depleted emotionally if we are not able to make intimate connections during the week, for instance. It says to think of how you can become dehydrated if you do not give your body water on a regular basis. Your body’s thirst mechanism sends a signal to your brain to let you know that you are dehydrated and need water. Well, the truth it that you were dehydrated long before your thirst mechanism kicked into play. The need for true intimacy in relationships is as such. Not being filled regularly with intimacy in close relationships can leave you isolated and emotionally empty. It’s talking about those safe people closest to you who you can share your joy’s, fears, weaknesses, hopes and dreams.
I don’t expect safe people to be perfect. I know they too make mistakes. But there are certain characteristics about them that make them safe people. And that is what I am learning about relationships today.
A Fender for me?!
Today, my Aunt Mary called me from L.A. My mom told her I was taking guitar and piano classes at RCC. She said she had my late uncle’s (her husband) Fender Telecaster he purchased in the 1950’s. He died 10 years ago. He was my uncle by marriage…and a talented musician who played in a band at small clubs back in his day. It is worth a lot of money. He had the color restored before he past away… so the value probable went down somewhat. But I am assuming it is still worth much. But I don’t intend on selling it…I intend on playing it! She also has the original case and an amp for me too! I’m excited…doesn’t that sound exciting?
Stranded!
I was on my way home from cross-country practice in North Corona Friday evening. I decided to take the streets instead of having to deal with the dreaded traffic on the freeway. As soon as I reached the hill that leads up to Arlington Ave. this clicking sound began. At first it was faint, but then it got louder and louder. Seconds later I could see smoke coming from the hood of my car. I frantically pulled over to the side of the road out of fear that my car would somehow explode. I got out immediately and opened the hood. There was so much smoke! Still in fear that it might explode I stood far away too let it cool off. Curtis was on the same rode up ahead. I called him and asked him to stop by the store to get me some coolant. I thought maybe my radiator was low. There was a lot of brown gunk in my radiator overflow bottle. I called my uncle Chester and mom in L.A. and they said to wait until my engine cooled completely. Then take off the cap and fill my radiator up all the way. It took almost the entire bottle. I mean it was completely dry! My uncle Chester said I may have a leak somewhere. Luckily I was able to drive home in the slow lane without any clicking noises or smoke coming from my hood. I think I was more tired than anything. As I was sitting on the curb as it started getting darker the only thing on my mind was, “I wish I was home in bed relaxing.” Hopefully I will be able to afford to take my car in next weekend to get it check for a leakage somewhere. But for now I have no choice but to drive it to work…in the slow lane of course!
Loving Every Aspect of Her
In her I sense love.
So patient and desiring to understand…
To understand who I am.
Willing to love unconditionally…she is…
Able to love so freely…
I find myself loving every aspect of her.
Wanting to trust, but afraid of the worst…
Not really sure why!
The world needs more people like her.
Such a blessing can only come from God.
Maybe she knows…maybe she doesn’t.
Still, I find myself loving every aspect of her.
In return, I hope I can be a good friend
…or atleast learn how to be.
I picture God smiling down upon her,
Pleased with His creation in His own likeness.
Woman of God? That she is…
Again, I find myself loving every aspect of her.
Music is Exciting!
My piano and guitar classes are coming along well. Things are beginning to get harder. I am learning the phrygian mode, chords and notes on the 1st, 2nd and 3rd strings while playing short musical pieces. My music reading is at an elementary level right now as it takes me 10-20 sec. to figure a note on a line. Still, I am having fun and enjoying what I am doing. Maybe I can play for one of the small groups I participate in and earn a little extra money playing as a stand-in.
Oh…and I finally recieved my BlueShield HMO insurance card in the mail. I finally have insurance to go get my gallbladder screened. Free insurance…it’s a beautiful thing.
